Wheres the line, promiscuity.

Steve-OOO1 · 04-1-2009, 03:06 PM

I'm not sure if i spelled that right. But anyhow, my question is how do you know where the line between being sexually active and being a slut is?

For me now i have been with alot of girls, but i have morals. I dont cheat and i dont lie. Whatever happenes between me and said women are between me and that person only.

Even though I am a good person, i still feel like im a slut at times.

Should i be feeling this way?

**demonllama6124** · 04-1-2009, 11:24 PM

well in my opinion, it depends on if youre dating said girl and you just so happen to have sex or youre single and you wanna play hide the salami with every girl you lay eyes on.

Necros140606 · 04-2-2009, 12:44 PM

everything is just a matter of perception. such differences don't exist.

every other opinion is brainwashing

**mellonxcollie** · 04-2-2009, 12:52 PM

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1. characterized by or involving indiscriminate mingling or association, esp. having sexual relations with a number of partners on a casual basis.

There is nothing specific whatsoever in the definition of "promiscuous". The specifics are completely based on personal beliefs and opinions.

As long as you feel comfortable with what you are doing, and treat all of your partners with respect, I don't believe you should feel any sort of remorse.

passivegirl · 04-13-2009, 10:53 AM

sooo interesting sig you got there. is your avatar in remembrance?

ontopic: even though you're a guy, IMO you shouldn't waste your body on someone unless you've been with them a verrrry long time and are truly passionate about them. it would also help if you planned on staying with them 'forever' and all that jazz.

if you do it with a chick that could care less about love or anything of the sort, then that's basically... lame and stupid, as well as *ultimatelyyyy* a waste of time. again, IMO.

you feeling like a "slut" at times isn't out of nowhere. almost seems like you've come here in hopes of random people on FFR praising you for mindlessly doing it with a number of girls so your ways can feel justified and the guilt will decrease.

cheers, and yes, atm laziness is preventing me from capitalizing the beginning of my sentences, while simultaneously causing my responses to be plagued by acronyms.

fido123 · 04-13-2009, 01:50 PM

It depends what you make of sex IMO. I'm still a virgin, but I think if you save sex for when you are deeply in love with somebody it makes it that much better. Pretty much have sex to express affection rather than to satisfy an urge. Then some people enjoy have lots of sex with lots of people, it's all what you take it for. I don't think those people are sluts, what are the negative consequences of doing that if you do it properly?

**qqwref** · 04-13-2009, 03:03 PM

It's all in the perception really. Having sex with a lot of people only means being a slut if you think it's wrong. There's really nothing wrong with being promiscuous unless you are cheating on someone you should be spending your time with (a girlfriend or wife) - so unless you are doing immoral things like that, anyone who calls you a slut is just jealous.

**darkshark** · 04-13-2009, 05:29 PM

You all give answers that only work in a non-discriminatory perfect world. The world does not judge you like this "it's only your own perception" bull****. If you have sex with multiple people just because you feel like having sex with multiple people, you ARE a slut.
If you have sex with someone you've been dating for a while, who's gonna call you a slut? Nobody. If you have sex with the girl you just met because she bought you chicken nuggets at McDonald's, then you're probably a slut.

**darkshark** · 04-13-2009, 05:44 PM

The biggest concern would always be that "oops" factor where you end up with a random kid(s) and ruin your life because you aren't ready. Then you're stuck with some chick you don't even want to be with, you just wanted to do her.

"Sluts" are just looked down upon in society, and we all know it.
Don't gimme any of that "oh well you shouldn't care what other people think about you" crap either, because it affects you whether you want to admit it or not.

operationstrawbarry · 04-13-2009, 05:50 PM

I dont think any man would say no to sex though. I mean if hot girls wanted to do you right there, would you really say no? I know I wouldn't say no.

Slut or no, I think all men want sex. Does this thinking mean im a slut though?

**darkshark** · 04-13-2009, 05:55 PM

All men want sex, it's the self-control factor that stops us.
Most men also want to kill someone...it's all about the control.

**darkshark** · 04-13-2009, 06:07 PM

I'm not religious at all, and quite honestly it doesn't matter why they are looked down upon, the point is...they are.

What I'd like to ask Steve is, how many and how often?

Necros140606 · 04-13-2009, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by darkshark

You all give answers that only work in a non-discriminatory perfect world. The world does not judge you like this "it's only your own perception" bull****. If you have sex with multiple people just because you feel like having sex with multiple people, you ARE a slut.
If you have sex with someone you've been dating for a while, who's gonna call you a slut? Nobody. If you have sex with the girl you just met because she bought you chicken nuggets at McDonald's, then you're probably a slut.

this is just the kind of response that creates long-term problems. it makes perfect sense with the societal context we are all in, but you can tell yourself that something's off in the common perception of things. if you just decide to abide by it without even questioning, we do indeeed have a problem. psychologists have been stressing for a long time how the sexual factor is crucial in the development of one's mentality. "we" come from millenniums of oscurantism and that's expected that a lot of time will be needed to readjust our situation. for this era, at least the young people should start to *at the very minimum* begin the analysis of the ethics inherited (from institutions, parents, other sources) and critically reconsider every single one of them. saying that either one or the other stance is wrong will never do any good to the development of humans, because it's based on opinions instead of observations.

**darkshark** · 04-13-2009, 06:13 PM

Nah, I call people sluts because I feel like calling people sluts.

Slut.

xD

But really now, if Steve answers my question and say he's had sex with 142 women in a month, what are your first thoughts?

**lumphoboextreme** · 04-13-2009, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by darkshark

Nah, I call people sluts because I feel like calling people sluts.

Slut.

xD

But really now, if Steve answers my question and say he's had sex with 142 women in a month, what are your first thoughts?

being a guy, he would generally get respect for it depending on the quality of the women

**GG_Guru** · 04-13-2009, 06:56 PM

What's wrong with being a slut?

**qqwref** · 04-13-2009, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by operationstrawbarry

I dont think any man would say no to sex though. I mean if hot girls wanted to do you right there, would you really say no? I know I wouldn't say no.

I can definitely think of situations where I'd say "no" and mean it.

Also, what about gay men? (Or asexuals?)

passivegirl · 04-13-2009, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by GG_Guru

What's wrong with being a slut?

Promotes all the wrong things you'd look for in a partner. Hints that the guy most likely does not have respect for long-term relationships nor holds any spark of interest in dedication and, of course, faithfulness.

Also, repeated mindless sexual activities can be seen as a borderline psychological problem, and immediately puts women seeking for sturdy relationships completely off. Makes them view you as if you have a disease (not as in STD, but there's a high chance you have that as well). The only ones that will actually engage in activity with a relentlessly sexually promiscuous man are those that are desperate, impulsive, and often... idiots.

Encounters you will have with women will usually not last for more than a day. The most meaningful relationship you may ever have while participating in this behavior is one with a woman interested in recurring mindless sexual activity.

Hope this answers your question.

**nois-or-e** · 04-13-2009, 09:37 PM

I used to change girls almost weekly during my slutty teenage years. And yes, ds is right. What are the figures? 1 a week, 20 a month? But then again, ****ing around is ****ing around in the end. You'll get over it. Slut.

kommisar[os] · 04-13-2009, 09:45 PM

depends on your values towards sex. for some it's just pleasure, some it's sacred, some it's for people they really care about.

04-1-2009, 03:06 PM	#1
Steve-OOO1 FFR Player Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Howell, Michigan Age: 36 Posts: 85	Wheres the line, promiscuity. I'm not sure if i spelled that right. But anyhow, my question is how do you know where the line between being sexually active and being a slut is? For me now i have been with alot of girls, but i have morals. I dont cheat and i dont lie. Whatever happenes between me and said women are between me and that person only. Even though I am a good person, i still feel like im a slut at times. Should i be feeling this way? __________________ I Quit Drugs.

04-2-2009, 12:44 PM	#3
Necros140606 FFR Player Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Italy Age: 35 Posts: 1,088	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. everything is just a matter of perception. such differences don't exist. every other opinion is brainwashing __________________

04-13-2009, 10:53 AM	#5
passivegirl FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 93	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. sooo interesting sig you got there. is your avatar in remembrance? ontopic: even though you're a guy, IMO you shouldn't waste your body on someone unless you've been with them a verrrry long time and are truly passionate about them. it would also help if you planned on staying with them 'forever' and all that jazz. if you do it with a chick that could care less about love or anything of the sort, then that's basically... lame and stupid, as well as ultimatelyyyy a waste of time. again, IMO. you feeling like a "slut" at times isn't out of nowhere. almost seems like you've come here in hopes of random people on FFR praising you for mindlessly doing it with a number of girls so your ways can feel justified and the guilt will decrease. cheers, and yes, atm laziness is preventing me from capitalizing the beginning of my sentences, while simultaneously causing my responses to be plagued by acronyms. __________________ Member for under a year and already over 400 AAAs! Yay for FFR ^_^

04-13-2009, 01:50 PM	#6
fido123 FFR Player Join Date: Sep 2005 Age: 32 Posts: 4,245	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. It depends what you make of sex IMO. I'm still a virgin, but I think if you save sex for when you are deeply in love with somebody it makes it that much better. Pretty much have sex to express affection rather than to satisfy an urge. Then some people enjoy have lots of sex with lots of people, it's all what you take it for. I don't think those people are sluts, what are the negative consequences of doing that if you do it properly?

04-13-2009, 03:03 PM	#7
qqwref stepmania archaeologist Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 34 Posts: 4,090	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. It's all in the perception really. Having sex with a lot of people only means being a slut if you think it's wrong. There's really nothing wrong with being promiscuous unless you are cheating on someone you should be spending your time with (a girlfriend or wife) - so unless you are doing immoral things like that, anyone who calls you a slut is just jealous. __________________ Best AAA: Policy In The Sky [Oni] (81) Best SDG: PANTS (86) Best FC: Future Invasion (93)

04-13-2009, 05:29 PM	#8
darkshark Nothing. Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: The Pacific Ocean Posts: 4,189	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. You all give answers that only work in a non-discriminatory perfect world. The world does not judge you like this "it's only your own perception" bull****. If you have sex with multiple people just because you feel like having sex with multiple people, you ARE a slut. If you have sex with someone you've been dating for a while, who's gonna call you a slut? Nobody. If you have sex with the girl you just met because she bought you chicken nuggets at McDonald's, then you're probably a slut.

04-13-2009, 05:44 PM	#9
darkshark Nothing. Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: The Pacific Ocean Posts: 4,189	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. The biggest concern would always be that "oops" factor where you end up with a random kid(s) and ruin your life because you aren't ready. Then you're stuck with some chick you don't even want to be with, you just wanted to do her. "Sluts" are just looked down upon in society, and we all know it. Don't gimme any of that "oh well you shouldn't care what other people think about you" crap either, because it affects you whether you want to admit it or not.

04-13-2009, 05:50 PM	#10
operationstrawbarry FFR Player Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Taipei Taiwan Age: 37 Posts: 802	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. I dont think any man would say no to sex though. I mean if hot girls wanted to do you right there, would you really say no? I know I wouldn't say no. Slut or no, I think all men want sex. Does this thinking mean im a slut though?

04-13-2009, 05:55 PM	#11
darkshark Nothing. Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: The Pacific Ocean Posts: 4,189	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. All men want sex, it's the self-control factor that stops us. Most men also want to kill someone...it's all about the control.

04-13-2009, 06:07 PM	#12
darkshark Nothing. Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: The Pacific Ocean Posts: 4,189	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. I'm not religious at all, and quite honestly it doesn't matter why they are looked down upon, the point is...they are. What I'd like to ask Steve is, how many and how often?

04-13-2009, 06:13 PM	#14
darkshark Nothing. Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: The Pacific Ocean Posts: 4,189	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. Nah, I call people sluts because I feel like calling people sluts. Slut. xD But really now, if Steve answers my question and say he's had sex with 142 women in a month, what are your first thoughts?

04-13-2009, 06:56 PM	#16
GG_Guru Let em' do what they want Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 3,219	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. What's wrong with being a slut? __________________

04-13-2009, 09:37 PM	#19
nois-or-e SponCon Aficionado Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: doot~ Age: 38 Posts: 3,250	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. I used to change girls almost weekly during my slutty teenage years. And yes, ds is right. What are the figures? 1 a week, 20 a month? But then again, **ing around is **ing around in the end. You'll get over it. Slut. __________________

04-13-2009, 09:45 PM	#20
kommisar[os] Banned Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Moncton, NB, Canada Age: 33 Posts: 4,097	Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity. depends on your values towards sex. for some it's just pleasure, some it's sacred, some it's for people they really care about.

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