5 years and my personal struggles - Page 2

**psychoangel691** · 03-18-2013, 06:07 PM

Well I can relate on the frustrations but not on the drinking part. If it's anything like being addicted to cigarettes you might just have to try to drop the habit completely. When I was a smoker I tried doing the cutting back stuff and everything under the sun but always failed. I had to just decide I was done and deal with the withdrawal until it eventually passed. It sucked but I've been smoke free for over two years now which has been nice. I just had to find something to keep me occupied during intense cravings.

FFRN00B90210 · 03-18-2013, 06:48 PM

start smoking weed

cedolad · 03-18-2013, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by psychoangel691

Well I can relate on the frustrations but not on the drinking part. If it's anything like being addicted to cigarettes you might just have to try to drop the habit completely. When I was a smoker I tried doing the cutting back stuff and everything under the sun but always failed. I had to just decide I was done and deal with the withdrawal until it eventually passed. It sucked but I've been smoke free for over two years now which has been nice. I just had to find something to keep me occupied during intense cravings.

Being a mom helped a lot I bet.

**psychoangel691** · 03-18-2013, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by cedolad

Being a mom helped a lot I bet.

Being a mom has nothing to do with it, I had been trying to quite for some time. There are plenty of moms out there that still smoke and smoked throughout.

cedolad · 03-18-2013, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by psychoangel691

Being a mom has nothing to do with it, I had been trying to quite for some time. There are plenty of moms out there that still smoke and smoked throughout.

Well I meant like being pregnant put you in a position where you had to quit, unless you quit before Saphira, in which case if you did that is something to be proud of.

**psychoangel691** · 03-18-2013, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by cedolad

Well I meant like being pregnant put you in a position where you had to quit, unless you quit before Saphira, in which case if you did that is something to be proud of.

Honestly I'm not going to get into my personal life in those regards because it's no one's business. Quitting had nothing to do with my pregnancy or my child.

cedolad · 03-18-2013, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by psychoangel691

Honestly I'm not going to get into my personal life in those regards because it's no one's business. Quitting had nothing to do with my pregnancy or my child.

Sorry I didn't mean to offend you if I did, in any case quitting is a very hard thing to overcome and I still find trouble with it.

korny · 03-18-2013, 08:59 PM

4-6 beers destructive alcoholic behavior? I probably drink 6 beers and 6 shots every night and i weigh 125 pounds, so you're not doin too bad brotha. I think you're an actual alcoholic if you wake up and need alcohol. You're gonna do what ya want regardless of what anyone says.

**j-rodd123** · 03-18-2013, 09:08 PM

**qqwref** · 03-18-2013, 09:14 PM

Replace the beer habit with something else. What I mean is, you've gotten yourself used to doing a specific thing (drinking) every night. If you stop doing that, even if you get off it, it may feel like it's missing, and if bad stuff starts happening in your life you could go back to the old habit as a comfort. The idea is to choose a new habit - writing in a journal, or drinking tea, or exercising, or anything else - and whenever you'd normally drink you do that instead. The brain's satisfied that you still have that comforting routine, but instead of a negative habit it's become a positive one. (This isn't something I'm just making up. The idea of replacing habits has been successfully applied to many things, for instance smoking. Feel free to google it for more info.)

**dragon890x** · 03-19-2013, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Shadow_God_10

If any of you have any suggestions or advice per my destructive alcoholism it would be greatly appreciated.

Find something else to vent your frustrations. It's as simple as that.

You drink a lot because you rely on alcohol for too much. Substitute alcohol with something else and your problem is solved. Also, note that alcohol will amplify your emotions. This could result in you drinking more as a consequence.

For me, playing FFR was a major source of comfort. I would forget that I'm playing a game and just smash on the keyboard as I listened to music that best portrayed my current feelings. You might have to look around a bit if FFR isn't your thing, but I guarantee you that there are many things available which would better suit your needs.

Some final advice, try to stay away from any mind-altering chemicals. They will not fix your problem.

Once again, they will not fix your problem.

**travman301** · 03-19-2013, 10:07 AM

You should find contentment within yourself man.

Having a person who you love is a great thing, but it shouldn't derail your life if you can't find that person or break up with someone.

I second everyone who are saying to find a hobby you enjoy doing. You are too young to be self medicating like you are doing. Try to enjoy yourself and roll with the punches when bad news comes along.

**.Layne.** · 03-19-2013, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by cedolad

This is a really harsh to put some of this Moll, but it's true for the most part lol

Hate the bottle, not yourself.

in my case, I cant afford it so alcohol isnt a choice for me when I get frustrated..

**Shadow_God_10** · 03-19-2013, 11:42 AM

Heh.. Wow. I knew making this thread was a good idea. Thanks to everyone for your advice. I knew this community would be able to provide personal insight and give me the positive vibes needed for me to grow as an adult. I didn't expect SO many individuals to have a rough idea of what I'm experiencing in life. Going back to this community is probably one of the best things I've done for myself in over...well 5 years xD. btw whatever happened to the FFR simfile database? o.O

**Mollocephalus** · 03-19-2013, 02:38 PM

FFR went down for a long time around 1~2 years ago and the simfile database was lost, i think. And i'm pretty sure there is a permission issue with it too, bemanistyle's database is gone as well.

**Shadow_God_10** · 03-19-2013, 02:45 PM

That's kind of sad

I was wondering if anyone had any of the files I released. I would LOVE to re-step them and make them better.

Brave Warrior
Morph Moth
Crow's something
Last Battle
Blaze of Life
I think I stepped Eruption as well not too sure

if anyone can give me a .rar file with all my old files it would greatly appreciated

03-18-2013, 06:48 PM	#22
FFRN00B90210 Banned Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 48	Re: 5 years and my personal struggles start smoking weed

03-18-2013, 08:59 PM	#28
korny It's Saint Pepsi bitch Join Date: May 2004 Location: Dallas, tx Age: 34 Posts: 4,385	Re: 5 years and my personal struggles 4-6 beers destructive alcoholic behavior? I probably drink 6 beers and 6 shots every night and i weigh 125 pounds, so you're not doin too bad brotha. I think you're an actual alcoholic if you wake up and need alcohol. You're gonna do what ya want regardless of what anyone says.

03-18-2013, 09:14 PM	#30
qqwref stepmania archaeologist Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 34 Posts: 4,090	Re: 5 years and my personal struggles Replace the beer habit with something else. What I mean is, you've gotten yourself used to doing a specific thing (drinking) every night. If you stop doing that, even if you get off it, it may feel like it's missing, and if bad stuff starts happening in your life you could go back to the old habit as a comfort. The idea is to choose a new habit - writing in a journal, or drinking tea, or exercising, or anything else - and whenever you'd normally drink you do that instead. The brain's satisfied that you still have that comforting routine, but instead of a negative habit it's become a positive one. (This isn't something I'm just making up. The idea of replacing habits has been successfully applied to many things, for instance smoking. Feel free to google it for more info.) __________________ Best AAA: Policy In The Sky [Oni] (81) Best SDG: PANTS (86) Best FC: Future Invasion (93)

03-19-2013, 10:07 AM	#32
travman301 #swagdog Join Date: Mar 2004 Age: 33 Posts: 2,641	Re: 5 years and my personal struggles You should find contentment within yourself man. Having a person who you love is a great thing, but it shouldn't derail your life if you can't find that person or break up with someone. I second everyone who are saying to find a hobby you enjoy doing. You are too young to be self medicating like you are doing. Try to enjoy yourself and roll with the punches when bad news comes along.

03-19-2013, 02:38 PM	#35
Mollocephalus Custom User Title Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Italy Age: 35 Posts: 2,601	Re: 5 years and my personal struggles FFR went down for a long time around 1~2 years ago and the simfile database was lost, i think. And i'm pretty sure there is a permission issue with it too, bemanistyle's database is gone as well. __________________

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