Haters gonna hate.
 

Ready for a cool story about jealous bitches? Actually this is just a rant to make me feel better. It's finals week, and I'm on edge. Okay, here goes.

So, I generally don't have experience with people competing with me grade-wise because I never made friends with people in my classes (I am a commuter making it difficult to make friends at school). Over the last year I befriended a girl who 75% of the time she is really cool and fun to talk to, but the other 25% of the time she is a complete bitch. This is especially true when we receive grades (we have had several classes together in the past, and have even worked on group assignments together). I think she is under the impression that she is more intelligent than I am because every time I have performed better on exams and assignments than her, she has turned ice cold and basically writes it off as luck. The thing is, I have consistently done better than her in all of our classes, so I don't see how she keeps coming to the same conclusion. Anyways, I want you to read a little AIM conversation I just finished having with her, and I want you to tell me if I completely over reacted or if she is crazy. Thanks in advance, because I didn't know psychology majors could actually be like this and not be able to psychoanalyze themselves.


Me: I was hoping he would post our grades tonight

Hater(9:05:53 PM):
i think he will
Hater(9:05:58 PM):
but later tonight i guess
Hater(9:24:03 PM): just got an email from professor, final grades are up
Hater(9:25:33 PM): ooohhhh boyyy
Hater(9:25:38 PM): okay im chekcing now
Hater(9:26:36 PM): how'd u do?

Me(9:27:02 PM): 100
Me(9:27:22 PM): very relieved

Hater(9:27:33 PM): whats ur total grade?

Me(9:27:53 PM): well with the extra credit I have 100%
Me(9:28:02 PM): without the extra credit I have like a 92 average


*very awkward pause*


Me(9:29:36 PM): did you do okay?
Hater(9:35:34 PM):
i got a 23/30 :-(
(9:29:58 PM): but final grade is a 90

(9:30:04 PM): A- not bad
Me 9:36 pm
Me(9:36:04 PM): you were one of the 3 people with an A-
Me(9:36:18 PM): you're like a celebrity lol

Hater(9:37:29 PM): lmao i am
Hater(9:37:29 PM): u got a full on A
Hater(9:37:29 PM): i think he likes you more than me
Hater(9:37:29 PM): in fact im sure of it

Me(9:37:50 PM): because I got an A?
Me(9:37:53 PM):that's not really fair to me
Me(9:37:59 PM): that you would say that
Me(9:38:23 PM): I don't think getting a hundred on tests has anything to do with how much a person likes you

Hater(9:39:00 PM): no no im not saying that you didnt deserve an A at all
Hater(9:39:03 PM): thats not what im saying
Hater(9:39:19 PM): it's just that he's always ****ing me over that's all

Me(9:39:48 PM): well you just said it's because he likes me better
Me(9:39:50 PM): so I mean
Me(9:39:57 PM): that's basically saying he likes me better that's why I got an A

Hater(9:40:48 PM):
okay my bad.. didn't mean it like that
Hater(9:40:48 PM): you totally deserve an A+

Me(9:40:53 PM): okay

ME SIGN OFF ANGRY

Hater(9:46:11 PM):
[Offline IM sent 13m ago] hope ur not mad, i didn't mean it like that

ME SIGN ON ANGRY

Me(9:59:23 PM): I just need to let you know so that I can calm down that I am extremely angry about the conversation we just had
Me(10:00:02 PM): this is not the first time you have made a comment like this to me...i feel like int he past when I have performed better on a test you immediately tell me it's because the professor likes me better or something similar
Me(10:00:08 PM): and it's really frustrating
Me(10:00:31 PM): I don't want to interrupt your studying but I think you really need to reconsinder how you vent your feelings especially when they are directed at other people even if you aren't doing it consciously
Me(10:01:09 PM): I don't know if you just got any of my IMs but I just had to let you know
Me(10:01:40 PM): good luck studying I need to cool down I will be back to normal in either 15 minutes or tomorrow, you know how I am.

Hater(10:01:58 PM):
yea i got ur im's thanks for your opinion



SHE SIGNS OFF ANGRY , or blocks me.




I was really angry when I first started writing this post, but now I'm just laughing at myself. End of rant.

You can post similar experiences if you have any.

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

you're right, but you overreacted

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

^^^ that's what I thought afterward (that I over reacted). Thanks for your opinion.

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

hmm, well if she's just normally like that it's good to tell her so she can work on it. I do agree that she needs to stop trying to make herself feel better by saying you have some sort of friendship going on with teachers, that's ridiculous.

I'm sure that because you told her how you felt, things'll come around eventually.

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

It's always like that with me too, hindsight is 20/20.

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Lol don't you love it when people compete against you? Happened to me in high school and it's beginning to happen here in college.

What's worse is that people would be friends with you so they can use you for homework and such. I don't understand why people are so lazy these days and realize that grades are based on how you perform in class. I guess it's something to be expected in today's world.

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

So she's angry because she thinks the professor gave you a better grade than her because the professor likes you? Wow that's stupid. Guess she's just one of the people that always like to be better than others. Nice rant though.

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If this had been a one time thing I probably would have told her "yeah we go out for coffee and have long walks on the beach together, that's why I got an A" but this is something she has done consistently every time we have gotten a test back since I met her. It's so frustrating, and the only way a person can fix bad behavior is if they realize what they are doing or someone bitch slaps them across the face with the truth. I'm probably going to end up apologizing tomorrow for over reacting, but I am in no way going to make her feel like I am going to tolerate this anymore.

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tell that bitch what's what be a MAN >=|

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People need to rationalize things, and most would rather rationalize the blame onto some external factor. It's a coping mechanism, and while it's a negative one it might serve to calm her down enough to get on with a positive action-based coping skill. More than likely though it calms her down enough for her to proceed to not deal with the problem at all.

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

Well, I don't think you overreacted that much. In fact, just by telling her the way you did, you've shown quite the maturity.

This. Happens a ****load of time in my math classes.

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This comment is especially funny because you don't know that I'm a female. That's why it sounds like such a cat fight...because it is.

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hahaha sorry, should have looked before I spoke. ah well.

g'luck with what tomorrow brings.

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It also depends on the friend. Some friends expect you to agree with them every time they complain about something, while other friends actually want your honest opinion. At my college we're extremely competitive about grades since the classes are on a curve and the A's are capped at a certain %, but we also stick together with friends and help each other out. I guess the mentality is if you're my friend, I'll help you out. Otherwise, too bad. There are a bunch of classes I've taken that I know I wouldn't have gotten through without having some friends to study and do homework with.

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

I KNOW! It's always the math and science classes for me too! I don't understand why ;(

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

This reminds me of something that happened to a buddy of mine earlier today...

Except, it was more of a relationship type of problem but very similar to this =/

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

Upset About Grades

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Holy **** what kind of reaction is that? Are you really that insecure that some offhanded comment that was obviously made to try to improve his self esteem bothers you THAT MUCH?

WHOAAAAAAAA ISSUES

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

That's hilarious, Rubino. I don't think you overreacted at all. In fact, I probably would have responded the same exact way as you did. If she was insinuating that she was smarter than you (as consistently as you claimed in your post) I say you're more than justified to confront her about it.

Re: Haters gonna hate.
 

Should have ended it right away just by saying.

Yes, I am better than you.